tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897689393274111024.post5387450873680776430..comments2023-10-31T11:07:27.803-04:00Comments on Hope's Blog: GuiltWodzisz Familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03402962907991995167noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897689393274111024.post-18411762347917846522009-10-22T10:36:12.454-04:002009-10-22T10:36:12.454-04:00Let the people serve you. Everyone wants to help....Let the people serve you. Everyone wants to help. It is a blessing for them. Please don't feel guilty. You WILL get through this year!Greg and Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01306695487772025779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897689393274111024.post-37326099809375478392009-10-21T23:28:55.200-04:002009-10-21T23:28:55.200-04:00Paula, I know exactly what you are going through. ...Paula, I know exactly what you are going through. Lauren was in a hospital 2 hours from our home. I had to leave my 2 year old a lot, but she has no lasting effects from her ordeal. Until I gave birth, Abby had never even been away from me because I am a stay at home Mom. It was hard. I worried about everything I wasn't getting done at home. Like you, I worried about gas and money for food or hotels. I felt guilty about people helping us. Complete strangers sent my kids gifts! You know what! Lauren's first birthday is this weekend and all of that is a distant memory. It turned out not to matter. I told people how much their assistance meant to me and that was enough. I gave Abby love and attention when I could and she's fine now. There were piles of stuff around my house to take care of (some of which I still am a year later), but it doesn't matter. We have our little Lauren. You are only capable of so much. Do what you can and know that the rest will fall into place or get taken care of eventually. You and Hope will be here tomorrow-that is what matters the most. Lucky for us infants aren't as aware of your abscence like an older child. Lauren has no lasting effects from the total of 9 weeks she has spent in the hospital and I definitely couldn't be there all the time. She knows who her Mommy is. Jessica MakuhAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897689393274111024.post-74105152192094546822009-10-21T15:40:51.710-04:002009-10-21T15:40:51.710-04:00Paula, please do not feel guilty about work...it p...Paula, please do not feel guilty about work...it pales in comparison to what you and your family have been through. Make sure you enjoy the last few days!!! DaveDave Slaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13975663543757929329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897689393274111024.post-30144460787617472932009-10-21T15:35:26.545-04:002009-10-21T15:35:26.545-04:00Paula, I know a little about the guilt that you...Paula, I know a little about the guilt that you're experiencing. It's too long to write here, but I'll write about something like that in my blog soon. From that experience, I can say that guilt can rob you from enjoying from what's in front of you. The trick is to live in the moment you are in. Guilt doesn't resolve anything, but only fill your mind about things you can't change. I've followed your blog for a while now, and to my eyes and in my heart, I can tell you that you've done a phenomenal job with all what has happened thus far. You've inspired so many people who came by to visit your blog. You should instead be proud of yourself, take strength from that to move forward. Time will heal you.Mom 2 Andréhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11578285307441996070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897689393274111024.post-64285774482983628952009-10-21T15:34:27.138-04:002009-10-21T15:34:27.138-04:00Please try not to feel guilty! You are doing what...Please try not to feel guilty! You are doing what's best for your family. In the big scheme of things, the time you are spending away from your boys is just a very small fraction of their lives. I haven't even had Adam yet and am already feeling guilty for what I am going to have to put my 2 yr old through, but I keep reminding myself that in 5 years, she won't even remember the time she missed with me. I'm sure nothing anyone can say to you will make you feel any different, but just try to remember that Hope needs you more than your sons right now!Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09167935847336799006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897689393274111024.post-4678989672989939602009-10-20T22:15:59.644-04:002009-10-20T22:15:59.644-04:00Thanks for your comment on my blog. I'm glad y...Thanks for your comment on my blog. I'm glad you found the words of encouragement I posted at just the right time. The book is called <a href="http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Little-Miracles/Dan-Zadra/e/9781932319491" rel="nofollow">"Little Miracles"</a> compiled by Dan Zadra.<br /><br />Please don't feel guilty! You're doing a great job considering you're being pulled in so many directions! Give yourself some well-deserved credit for keeping up as well as you are! Hang in there!!!mom2lohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04174307421334196127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897689393274111024.post-51836407876961822012009-10-20T20:03:52.335-04:002009-10-20T20:03:52.335-04:00Can't speak for everyone - but I love having t...Can't speak for everyone - but I love having the boys!! Amanda and I have a great time with them. I wish I could do more - and feel guilty that I have not been able to do more. Don't spend too much time on the guilt - it eats up to much space in life - enjoy Hope - I know work will throw in another challange - but it will all work out in the end!! I am sorry that Paul has been grabbing on to your legs and crying - I know that breaks your heart - Dominic used to do that to me too - it was soo hard to leave. He will be okay!! It's hard to see right now but they will all be okay!! We love you and hope to see you and the boys soon!! Hoping to be fever free soon!! I love you!!Marilynnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897689393274111024.post-10461506094961973302009-10-20T15:45:28.896-04:002009-10-20T15:45:28.896-04:00Do no let yourself feel guilty. You are a great mo...Do no let yourself feel guilty. You are a great mom and your kids know it. I know it must be hard for the boys but thank God they are healthy and strong. Hope needs you more than ever right now and it is only temporarily. She should be home soon and then you spend all your time with your 3 wonderful kids. I am sure the people around you understand and they are more than grateful to help you out. I am sure you would do the same for them. Don't let that guilt get the best of you. Wish I was closer to help in some way. If you need to talk give me a call.<br />Sending hugs from sunny CA. <br />Take care...Lisettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486760107232191431noreply@blogger.com